Kory In CHina

When Kory was here in China, we had so much fun. I flew to Beijing to greet him there. I love Beijing It is afterall my first home in China. I love everything but air quality about it... I can handle beijing traffic. Its ok. Not the worst. Comparable to 405 or 5 traffic during rush hour.. But In Beijing it is all day long like that.  Anyway- we had so much fun. Great wall, forbidden city, Hutong tour,  Sanlitun bar street, few restaurants here and there,  of course Beking Duck,  Jade factory, Silk factory.. From there on we moved to Hangzhou, where I live.

We did not do much here. Just Chilled.   Seriously- his whole trip to china was chill- with few ups and downs.. Come on- we were together in china 24/7 for 2 weeks... and we did not kill each other. There were moments I could not breathe- I had to go out and take a breather.. but it was not because he was here. It happened because-- I was not sure what was happening. Were we in a relationship, was he using me, were we in a situationship, what the fuck were we doing.. It just got little overwhelming  at times, and I did not know how to handle it...  But one thing I knew, I had fallen him really hard.    I could see future with him, and I still see. .... So  those downs... They were in a way clarity moments.. THose were those dark corners everybody is talking about, those were moments, that made us stronger.

From Hangzhou we flew to Guangzhou for a while.  It was just to check out how things r in there- keeping business in mind....

From there on we got back to Hangzhou and enjoyed our time here.... I created slideshow with photos  on youtube... Seriously.. I am having the time of my life, and I dont want this ever stop....  He is my person...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A0PvdGK5Q10

and another slideshow of his adventures here in China..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9fxftj7ns4



I am enjoying this adventure to the fullest... Only time will tell.....

Enjoy it all

Few months ago I told myself,  I'm fine on my own, I am fine without meaningless relationship, I am fine without love in my life.  And I was fine. After my divorce few years ago  I really thought I am done with everything, but you know life has different plans, and I fell once hard for someone. ANd I am glad I did.  After that I had few mediocre fun situationships that lead me to HIM.

He entered my life when I did not want anything like him.  I had already made plans for life, I had accepted that I will do my thing till the day I die. had plans to move back to California, get few cats, maybe Pitbull... etc..  I was not looking for a boyfriend, or someone to fall in love with. Along the line I realized guys are drama, and I wanted to stay away from it all... But then miracle happened...

 Sometimes in December I signed up to  Tinder... Just because, I knew I will travel to USA and  I was on a mission to find few dates here and there, to see what is available, because  I planned to move back to Cali in october.. and I wanted to see if there are guys available at all.

Well,  funny thing is.. I told myself, I really want to have nice WHite boy for a moment. Because In china i only dated Africans( not african americans).. And I was kind of tired of the game, and talk. But same time, I was not even sure what I wanted...


SO TINDER.... oh.. I had about 40 matches within 4 days..  But I only kind of chatted with 4 guys. Rest of them were not even what I was interested.. Was just playing the field to see, what hooks...
Lined up 3 dates... They were not horrible. They were just what I did not need.    First guy I only chatted for 10 minutes, then stood up and said sorry, Can't - we want different things....
Second guy, was leading all wrong way... FUll of shit...  I know game when I see game....

Third guy... He was actually acceptable... and something I could handle, but  I realized,  he  too only wanted something else, and was just saying all sorts of things to lead to one thing...   whatever....


ANd then... One night...  after I picked up my Best friend from LAX, we were both swiping again. After my last date, I told myself - I am so done with it...  I keep attracting what I dont need, and it is getting little annoying to be honest...    SO there I was  and I took my last swipe... and there was match...

I was like... really?  like why? I am leaving USA in 3 days to China, and i got a match and we gonna have coffee in morning... And at that point I did not know  He had Aafrican roots..  I just knew he was charming,  the way he communicated ,was smart and I was  intrigued....

So in morning I woke up, sent him message, asking him.. he is still up for us meeting, because I had a feeling, he had changed his mind....  

I literally felt it. I felt like he was in between .. But thankfully, i messaged him, and it made him actually show up...

We were  supposed  to Meet at Starbucks....  BUT my navigation did not take me there. It gave me different address. And so I called him and said, sorry.. it is not working out fine .  I don't know this area, but I am in front of coffee bean.. and can we meet here..    And we did....

ANd the way we met was interesting....  I was on one end of store and he was at the other, and he called me , where I am at, and  I answered...   He was in one end of store, and I was in the other, and the moment I answered the phone .. We both kind of stepped out behind the corner and saw each other... ANd something in me went YUP.... HE IS IT.........

I can't explain it... I just new... I NEW...  Maybe he did tooo... BUT  something in me cracked...  and it had not happened since 2013.    AND he was not even something I wanted in my life.  TOTALLY opposite what I was asking from God.  But I guess GOd new what works for me, and He was right... It has been perfect mix of everything.


We have our challenges..But such is life...   There is no rainbow without rain....  To Be continued.....

Missing the one....